I get many questions about how I met my husband, since I met him when I was on travel. And since today is Valentine’s Day, which story fits better!
As most of you may already know, my husband is Bolivian. I was on an internship in Bolivia, and had only one week left when I met Alejandro. While, he came back home from a three months long Europe trip, two days before the day we met.
We met in an anniversary dinner for the organization we both travelled with. However, none of us was supposed to be there at that dinner. If things went as we planned.
That day I was in Sucre, far from the city that anniversary dinner took place. I had been travelling for over a week around Bolivia with a friend from Holland. Sucre is a beautiful colonial city, and we wanted to stay longer there, and take a flight back to Cochabamba the next day. However, it was sold out. Therefore, we did not have any other option than to travel back to Cochabamba that same day.
When we arrived we were very tired, and my friend wanted to stay at home and watch a movie. I insisted that we should go to this anniversary dinner, due to that it would be the last time we would see many of our friends as the next week we both were leaving.
So, we went.
My husband was also not planning to go. He got offered a job in Hungary and Holland, but did not have the appropriate visa to accept them, despite that he really wanted. For getting a working-visa, he needed to get back to Bolivia. Then he was supposed to be some weeks in Sao Paulo with a friend, but his flight back from Europe was changed to Lima. There he had an interview for a job in Colombia, but during the interview his flight was going and he had to run. Therefore, he did not get the job. So he came home to Bolivia, and the day after, the dinner where we met took place. He was tired as well, but wanted to surprise his friends with that he was back from Europe.
So, he went.
Then it was almost love at first sight. At least for him. For me it did not take long either. After talking with him, I found him very interesting. A man that seemed to have all the requirements on my long “What I am looking for in a boyfriend” list. He was handsome, funny, kind, independent and intelligent. He had master degree, and loved to travel. In addition, he had a foundation working with street kids, which I found very interesting as I worked in the same area.
We think it all was meant to be, as none of us was supposed to be there that night.
The following week we spent all the time together, and we fell in love pretty fast. The night before I was leaving for a long trip to Peru, Hong Kong, and India, he asked me if I would like to try to be serious. I said yes. However, I was not so sure that it would work due to the distance and the travel.
In India, I was two months without internet. He called me to my phone every day and night. The time in India was pretty hard for me. But with his support I made it through that hard time.
I was thinking that if this man manage to support me that well when I am on the other side of the world, and make me get through these difficult times, he will for sure do the same also when we are together.
So, I decided to go back to Bolivia for him. For three months, for see how it would work out. We moved together, and everything went very well. After the three months, he asked me to please stay, so I changed my flight-ticket home. Now, this is almost 3 years ago, but we got married over one year ago.
However, it have not been just easy having a husband from another country. Not because we come from different cultures. Most warned me about that that would be the challenge, but it is not. However, the biggest challenge have been that we are not able to be together in my country, where I would like to settle. Where my family is, my safety, and where I would like to get and see my children grow up.
The Norwegian government want to separate us for almost two years for us to be together there. But, what kind of marriage is that?
It has been a hard time fighting for our rights to be together in Norway. However, now we hope the situation is solved soon without being separated. However, we will not celebrate before we are sure, as we have been disappointed many times before.
Anyway, despite these problems I would go through it again and again for my dear husband. And I would never chose anyone else. As one of my favourite songs goes: Be it for reason, be it for love. I won’t take the easy road.
Happy Valentine’s Day you all!